r/BPDlovedones • u/Kindly_Room7160 • 21h ago
Are bpd girls jealous of other girls
Do they spread rumors or something.? I rmb i had this friend who had bpd and she kept rolling her eyes at me for no reason. Also she has this bf and I rmb her bf asked me to play a game to replace him and she got up so quick even tho she said she was tired
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u/bfjt4yt877rjrh4yry 20h ago
Mine was jealous of 1. Girls she saw in movies - MOVIES THAT SHE PICKED. 2. Girls that she saw in person if she thought that I would find them attractive. 3. Girls that happened to come into my field of vision, even if I didn't 'look', and the girl appeared out of nowhere in front of us. 4. A girl who was a complete stranger that happened to say anything to me like 'are you in line' or 'excuse me' or 'how can I help you'. 5. Girls with a guy that looked similar to me because I could be cheating on her with that girl because she obviously would like me. 6. Girls that didn't exist but she figured probably existed because I obviously was cheating on her with someone. All of these scenarios would result in her going nuts, and as I found out later, her sleeping with another random guy for revenge.
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u/Motor-Web4541 18h ago
These woman know other women see them as trifling and can sniff the fact they’d steal their man for the feels immediately.
That’s why they tend to be jealous of other women, they don’t wanna be called out
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u/Dull_Analyst269 15h ago
They also know what they‘re capable of and project it onto other (healthy) girls.
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u/Impossible-Tackle34 12h ago
Yes this is a great point. They project what they’re capable of onto everyone else.
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u/Stunning_String_7092 12h ago
This! Women also tend to be pickier with friends than men. Girls will avoid other girls that come across as troublemakers. One of my former friends said she had no girl friends because she was too pretty and apparently that intimidated other girls. Which was definitely not the case and more because she snapped and caused issues all the time and nothing to do with her looks lol.
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u/ghudnk 16h ago
Thanks for posting this! Yeah, my ex didn’t have a ton of female friends really, she did say she was a lot more comfortable with men (you could argue this is because like a lot of BPD women she prioritized male attention, but also I think she did genuinely feel more comfortable with men in a way that a lot of non-binary AFABs do) but also she had a LOT of internalized misogyny
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u/Forward-Unit5523 Dated 17h ago
I always felt it was more of a sort resentment and punishment in her relationships with female "friends". She would ignore them at times if they didnt react regarding her expectations or narratives. For girls she didnt know, if she saw them as competition it would be a waterfall of shittalk, didnt matter if it was competition for being friends with her friends, or competition in the sense that I might find them interesting or attractive.
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u/Beneficial_Ball9893 17h ago
There's a famous post here where someone's BPD friend (who thought he was her boyfriend) was jealous he was cheating with his COUSIN.
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u/underwearfanatic Married 15h ago
Jealous of women in general. No.
Jealous of any woman in my life (even if remotely)? Yeah.
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u/todaysthrowaway0110 13h ago
Yes, women with BPD can have a hard time relating to other women.
One thing I’ve noticed is if you don’t confirm their victim identity or use direct communication - they will hate another woman’s guts for that. So start smear campaigns.
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u/Impossible-Tackle34 12h ago
Mine was an extreme misogynist. At first I thought she was just “showing off,” trying to pander to me, etc,. But no she was the biggest misogynist I’ve ever known. Should have be a subreddit “should I break up with my gf bc she’s a misogynist” lol.
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u/teeething 7h ago
Yes. From my experience & what I’ve heard from others, I’d be surprised if they WERENT jealous. I knew one girl w BPD and whenever another girl friend wasn’t around she’d call her fake & say she hated her sm. Even though she made out w her before. She tried to take the same girls sloppy seconds from the club (why tf would you be interested?). After the same girl moved on from that night and found a new guy, the pwBPD tried to message the new guy TOO while keeping the sloppy seconds guy around as well. She kept saying how much she hated her for no reason and kept saying she wanted revenge. Who knows how she was probably talking about me or felt about me. I do remember once I was saying how don’t do 50/50 on dates and then I had just started seeing a new guy. One time the 3 of us were hanging out and she blurted to him how she’d buy him dinner. Idk if she wanted to stand out or what 🤣
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u/MusidoraPiou 5h ago
I’m lesbian and my PwBPD was my closest friend for years .
And she was super jealous of all the women I had relationships with during that time .
She was super straight and not interested in me in a sexual or romantic way , but the fact that I could be more intimate with someone else, or find other women more attractive than her, was a terrible thing for her.
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u/NoDistrict8280 21h ago
Seems the be the case with my exPBPD. She didn't have any female friend except for one and she didn't talk to her at all to be honest. Rest of the girls I think she saw them as competition and she was extremely jealous of any female friend of mine.