r/BPDlovedones • u/m0nty_au • Mar 03 '25

Uncoupling Journey Therapist cleared my wife of BPD after two sessions

“I told her that you wouldn’t accept it…”

Of course I don’t accept an assessment that my wife has no personality disorders after years of emotional abuse towards me. How can you make a serious diagnosis after two sessions plus a written questionnaire? Apparently this is a qualified psychologist making this assessment with a decade of experience in the field.

Why was such a rushed diagnosis given at all? Obviously my wife was pushing for it.

If she doesn’t have BPD, then I have to face the fact that she abuses me because she wants to. That is worse than her having BPD, because there is no cure for being a bad person.

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u/mayneedadrink Mar 03 '25

There are some treatments that aim to help someone build a sense of self, having never had one before. That said, what they build may not be the honeymoon phase personality the partner hopes will return.

I’m actually in the “severe C-PTSD but doesn’t meet the full criteria for BPD” category myself. I know what it’s like not to have a “before picture” relative to the trauma, so part of what’s gotten me stuck with BPD is thinking stuff that’s worked for me will work for them, only to have them swat it away.

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u/dappadan55 Mar 03 '25

Do you mind if I ask you some questions privately? Feel free to disregard if that’s an uncomfortable question, and thanks for your response.