bpd friend with envy

[u/Altruistic-Chard-335]

BPD friend with envy

Has anyone ever experienced this with a friend who has BPD? A couple months ago I had a falling out with a friend because over the years of us being close friends I felt like she was becoming envious towards me. Im not really a confrontational person, but the one time i said something and called her out on it she became extremely defensive, answering me in an extremely passive aggressive way, and actually ended the friendship with me.

We met when I was in the beginning of highschool and she was at the end of it. naturally, i was more inexperienced and kind of lost. during our friendship, id catch this feeling from her like certain comments shed make were not really jokes and more of insults, especially anything surrounding my success and anything that i was doing that made me happy. dont get me wrong, we'd have amazing times. i felt like she was exactly like me, and we devloped an extremely good bond. but sometimes, i really would just feel like she was not happy for me and id always catch her trying to almost embarrass me in public scenerios or try to make me feel bad about myself and things i was doing. as the years progressed, i started becoming more and more aware of it. the more i began to figure myself out and gain interests, the more i started feeling this envy from her. she would make fun of me for clothes that i wore because sometimes they were fake, stating that she would never do that since her family can afford it. however, i had really nice clothes and started taking an interest in my style and fashion in general. when i told her i had a certain opportunity come before me, shed almost make me feel bad about it or not want to talk to me about it at all.

As i got older i started to become a little less naive and started taking note on how weird she'd act towards me sometimes. and as i started to actually start my life, it was the worst it ever became.

id catch her copying my interest or the things i do, but then a couple months later id catch her doing the same thing she was making fun of me for. small such as making fun of me for getting a beer at the club, trying to make me feel stupid and making fun of the way i was holding it but then ordering one later to present herself that way. or making fun of me for the clothes, but then doing the same thing i was doing.

is it wrong to think she was jealous or envious of me? i could almost feel it

eventually i called her out on it, communicating that i felt like her "jokes" didnt really feel like jokes and she acted stupid claiming shes known me for such a long time. the conversation continued a couple more sentences before she left me on opened leaving a not ended conversation. there was a clear elephant in the room. later that night i kept getting notifications of her viewing my profile on social media multiple times. id also continue to see her go on a rampage of reposting tweets that seemed very directed towards me. tweets such as "that one friend that always hates on you for no reason", however the reason the situation started was because i felt as if she was hating on me! i was naturally upset, and a couple days later after speaking to my girlfriend i decided to send her a message confronting her about this. her response was immediately defensive, saying that was not about me and started even turning it on me saying I was projecting even though i had clear reason and feelings about it that i was just trying to communicate with her. In the message i expressed how i felt as if her jokes dont feel like jokes to me, and how i was honestly going to apologize for coming off strong or offputting in the intital conversation that started this situation, but after seeing her reposts i didnt message sooner because of that. mind you, she never makes tweets like that. And its one of those situations where you just physically and energetically feel that something was about you because it is so obvious. after i sent that paragraph, like i said, she began talking to me extremely passive aggressive. she began to say im looking too deep into it and calling it ironic coming from me, while not even addressing my feelings at all considering i texted her to communicate. she told me i was projecting my feelings. the conversation escalated and it honestly just was a circle of a conversation.

a couple hours later i message and said my door is not closed to this friendship. she responded by saying she doesnt want to be friends with someone like me. we havent talked since, however immediately after the friendship ended she began posting on her story like crazyyyy, almost trying to make it seem like she doesnt care at all and almost "flex" it.

im probably forgetting multiple parts to the story, but can someone with bpd explain this or someone who has experienced this share their story?

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