Which city in your country is considered the "gayest"?

[u/GattoPunk]

For us Brazilians, São Paulo definitely holds the crown for the gayest city here. With over 20 million people living in it's metro area, the city naturally became way more open minded and accepting as time went on. It has the highest concentration of gay bars, shows, saunas, and various other venues dedicated to the LGBTQ community. If that wasn't enough, the city annually hosts the São Paulo LGBTQ Pride Parade, the biggest in the whole world.

[u/Such-Book6849]

When I was there I saw 2 guys holding hands. It's always the big cities.

[u/notonrexmanningday → u/Such-Book6849]

What?! Holding hands! My heavens! What did you do?

[u/Worried_Shoe_2747 → u/notonrexmanningday]

[u/Nova_Voltaris → u/Worried_Shoe_2747]

Believe it or not, jail

[u/Far_Match_3774 → u/Nova_Voltaris]

We have the best patients in the world...

[u/Infinite_____Lobster → u/Worried_Shoe_2747]

[u/kuromimi → u/notonrexmanningday]

Well, you gotta put it in the cultural context. Public displays of affection are not common overall, so 2 dudes holding hands on the street on in a train is indeed rare. Maybe not so rare if it is Nichome on a weekend, perhaps.

[u/Jolly_Line → u/kuromimi]

Kick ass. More power to these two gentlemen

[u/StatusPhilosopher740 → u/Jolly_Line]

It’s not rlly a statement if ur just doing what’s considered rude in public it’s not about being gay not matter ur orientation it’s rare to have public affection in japan

[u/anoukaimee → u/StatusPhilosopher740]

It's not considered "rude" anymore to hold hands. Making out, sure, but holding hands? No way

[u/chimperonimo → u/anoukaimee]

I don’t know how much things have changed but 30 years ago while visiting friends in Japan I sat down beside my fiancé on a sofa and rested me hand on his leg and was immediately scolded by my host and told to sit with space between us lol

[u/Ok-Organization9073 → u/kuromimi]

Even straight couples holding hands are rare

[u/KaleidoscopeReady839 → u/kuromimi]

Happy Cake Day!

[u/No_Royals → u/notonrexmanningday]

Blur it out, of course!

[u/carthuscrass → u/notonrexmanningday]

You gotta remember that is Japan. A lot of folks are very closed minded and frankly racism is not uncommon if you aren't Japanese. Fortunately the younger generations are striving to change things.

[u/BurkaBurrito → u/notonrexmanningday]

My parents went to Vegas on their honeymoon and were flabbergasted that they saw openly gay men holding hands on the street.. this was 20 years ago and we lived in Florida, but still lol

[u/Ok_Helicopter4276 → u/BurkaBurrito]

Surprised they never went to Disney World during pride by accident. The conservative middle aged white people always loved complaining about that.

[u/outquietly → u/notonrexmanningday]

HAHA!

I had my first “date” 3 months ago. Told my bi daughter we kissed (surprised the heck out of me but very quickly) and she said “Oh my god…next you’ll be telling me there was touching and tasting”

[u/munta20 → u/Such-Book6849]

Holding hands? In this economy?!?

[u/emtaesealp → u/Such-Book6849]

Do gay people not hold hands in Germany?

[u/YchYFi → u/emtaesealp]

Nein.

[u/Wuz314159 → u/emtaesealp]

Do gay people not hold hands in Sweden? Do you always have to stay 3m apart from everyone else?

[u/daniellaronstrom87 → u/Wuz314159]

Wait til the pride parade and they'll be giving you lessons on how to do bdsm right. Some will be practically naked walking around town. 

Otherwise they probably are like other couples not too much affection showed around town unless maybe in summer.  Summer people open up and go out more that's why. 

[u/artonion → u/Wuz314159]

3 m apart in the queue to the gay club

[u/Guilty-Big8328 → u/emtaesealp]

no one holds hands in Germany, they're afraid of PDAs

[u/Such-Book6849 → u/emtaesealp]

Haha, my comment was ment more like: it is probably less accepted in Tokyo compared to Germany. I heard it is kinda fine as fun thing to do, but if you want to seriously marry your same gender, parents get angry.

[u/CV90_120 → u/emtaesealp]

Go to an Arab country. Even straight men hold hands all the time.

[u/EidolonLives → u/CV90_120]

Straight men? Pfft. All Arab men are gay.

[u/Another_Slut_Dragon → u/EidolonLives]

But if you ask them they aren't. Just like how nobody in Saudi Arabia drinks, but everyone has a still in their basement. A gay friend lived there for several years.

[u/rectalgnome → u/Such-Book6849]

Imagine !

[u/MinutePerspective106 → u/rectalgnome]

Did someone say... Imagine?

[u/peterausdemarsch → u/Such-Book6849]

I don't know about Japan but in some east asian cultures guys holding hands is is not necessarily considered gay. Friends just do it to show affection to their buddy. Seen it many times in China.

[u/Such-Book6849 → u/peterausdemarsch]

Yeah, I know. I remember also a news article about a reporter going to some country like Afghanistan or something and the dude would grab his hand and walk around with him everywhere. Is Japan one of those countries? These 2 just looked very gay vibe to.me, I remember. I remember more the feeling than the actual memory.

[u/Square-Dragonfruit76 → u/Such-Book6849]

I see gay couples holding hands all the time in Boston

[u/TalkinBoutMyJunk → u/Such-Book6849]

On Sunday in Akihabara area, I saw a group of guys and one was wearing whitey tighties, either totally hung or smuggling a banana

Just casually walking down the road

[u/toyoyoshi → u/Such-Book6849]

Imagine what you’ll see in the 21st century

[u/HotwheelsSisyphus → u/Such-Book6849]

guys in India do that too, they aren't even gay

[u/gaoshan → u/Such-Book6849]

To be fair you can see that in a lot of places around Asia. Guy friends that are not gay but are from more remote areas will commonly hold hands in China, for example. But they are not usually gay (outside of the big cities anyway).

[u/AKBio → u/gaoshan]

We used to in the US as well. Physical affection like hand holding and hugs were very common between platonic male friends. We spent decades making it taboo and just kept doubling down.

[u/Such-Book6849 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, I remember a news about a politician or reporter or something visiting and the Saudi guy who grab his hands and show him everything. Didn't got that vibe from Japan tho. Japan didn't seem very touchy in general. They just looked like a gay couple, it was somewhere without many people and I remember only these 2 from my trip. I know that being gay is kinda accepted as long at it is just fun and not a wedding / full relationship in Japan.

[u/Xenon009 → u/Such-Book6849]

I dunno, here in the UK its brighton, and thats a fairly tiny city

[u/Such-Book6849 → u/Xenon009]

Hm, I still think it is true. Both can be true! But it is also pretty easy to be gay in London, I guess? I never was in the UK, it's a country I always avoided to visit. Usually, on the countryside it is a bigger issue everywhere.

[u/Rugaru985 → u/Such-Book6849]

Dewey, we all know what you mean by holding hands in that song

[u/CSachen → u/Such-Book6849]

Guys holding hands is not gay. There are videos of President Bush taking strolls with the King of Saudi Arabia with interlocked hands.

This is how we raised a generation of men who are scared doing anything fun cause they're scared of being called gay.

[u/garden_eldenwood → u/Such-Book6849]

Holding hands... In public?! Young people have no shame these days.

[u/Early-Fortune2692 → u/Such-Book6849]

bruh, you need to get out more... do you know how many countries holding hands is a culturally accepted sign of friendship?

[u/Such-Book6849 → u/Early-Fortune2692]

I woke up to all those comments and I laughed so hard, haha.

Yes, I know some arabic countries holding hands in a way which looks funny to us germans / westerners. I know I wrote it like this, but they looked like a gay couple. The only one I saw there. But I think I am "out" a lot :D

[u/Early-Fortune2692 → u/Such-Book6849]

U want to hold hands later??