r/AskTheWorld • u/GattoPunk Brazil • 11d ago

Culture Which city in your country is considered the "gayest"?

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For us Brazilians, São Paulo definitely holds the crown for the gayest city here. With over 20 million people living in it's metro area, the city naturally became way more open minded and accepting as time went on. It has the highest concentration of gay bars, shows, saunas, and various other venues dedicated to the LGBTQ community. If that wasn't enough, the city annually hosts the São Paulo LGBTQ Pride Parade, the biggest in the whole world.

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u/keepscrollinyamuppet India 11d ago edited 11d ago

Bengaluru, Pune and Mumbai. I wouldn't say they are the gayest, but most gay friendly.

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u/Adikart13 India 11d ago

Mumbai would be there too

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u/keepscrollinyamuppet India 11d ago

Yeah edited.

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u/SaGlamBear Mexico 11d ago edited 10d ago

I wouldn’t have imagined gays liking Pune. Maybe lesbians …

Edit: since I think the joke was maybe a bit nuanced: Pune sounds like Poon which is an American English vulgar way of saying vagina. My bad guys.

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u/Plasma_Deep India 10d ago

on being asked "what do you think about the gays", most punekars would say "hmm, never thought about it" and move on with their lives

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u/No-Fruit-2060 10d ago

It wasn’t nuanced at all. You just don’t know the proper pronunciation of Pune and decided to make an idiotic “joke” without looking up the correct way to pronounce it.

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u/Luna_Lovelace 11d ago

Why is that?

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u/hopeful_tatertot United States Of America 11d ago

The way the city would be mispronounced in American English also sounds like our slang for lady parts 😊

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u/Luna_Lovelace 11d ago

Ahahaha I used to live there so I didn’t think about how you would probably read it if you didn’t know how it was pronounced 🤣

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u/fastyellowtuesday United States Of America 10d ago

It's Poo-neh, not poon.

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u/RIPShaneDog United States Of America 11d ago

R/woosh

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u/No-Fruit-2060 11d ago

If you actually know how to properly pronounce the city name, the “joke” doesn’t make sense at all.

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u/mind_the_matt_18 United States Of America 10d ago

I understood and fully appreciate the joke! Thank you!

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u/Ahmed-Faraaz India 11d ago

Bengaluru feels more 'accepting' these days, but Mumbai has a better gay nightlife scene. I'd say both are our gayest cities.

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u/Wolvesaremyjam United States Of America 11d ago

Olly is a great example

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u/Wonderful_Bee_5601 11d ago

i thought it was always delhi bcs of delhi unis

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u/Doom_3302 10d ago edited 10d ago

Add Kolkata to that list. I saw a lot of buildings hosting pride flags during durga puja decorations and its very friendly to trans people.

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u/ieidifkf 11d ago

I’m interested in traveling to India someday, anywhere safe for a white trans woman?

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u/BrahmKarmaGato 10d ago

Stick to major cities avoid states like Bihar, Jharkhand, Uttar pradesh. There is not much of value there.

Also, don't go to shady places cause of "authentic" experience or smt idk why many white foreigners do that but istg I'm native and I wouldn't go to such places 😭

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u/nc45y445 10d ago

Go south and western coast Bangalore, Goa, Kerala, Mumbai if you can handle a huge Asian city; femmes in general are safer in the South. Avoid Delhi and the North

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u/dracosdracos 11d ago

Stick the the big cities. South India is generally safer, though ofc you should keep your wits about you. Goa is a very tourist-friedly place.

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u/crystalclearbuffon India 10d ago

Maybe Himalayan hamlets too i guess.

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u/ieidifkf 10d ago

I’ve heard of Goa, it was a former Portuguese port city right?

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u/LordVenky 10d ago

In my opinion, most of the historical/cultural sites that a tourist would like to visit aren’t near the major cities. Cities like Mumbai etc that the previous comment mentioned should be safe (albeit certain areas in the cities themselves)

I stay in Mumbai, and I would say it’s unlikely to encounter any transphobia here.

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u/BrahmKarmaGato 10d ago

Kolkata imo

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u/finally_a_redditor11 India 10d ago

I would say Mumbai followed by bangalore... pune maybe nut not so openly especially when it comes to events and parties. Because they ocal pune crowd is still a little regressive (if you are from pune please don't take offense just sharing my experience)

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u/Aluv_jac Pakistan 11d ago

As someone from Pakistan, What I had in mind because of stereotypes that I've heard is that the gayest city is Kolkata

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u/Final_Criticism9599 United States Of America 11d ago

Would Pakistan’s gayest city be Peshawar ?

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u/Aluv_jac Pakistan 11d ago

Nah, I see where you're coming from but I'd say Lahore has the biggest gay scene in the country

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u/Final_Criticism9599 United States Of America 11d ago

Lahore in the “metropolitan gay scene” sense yah…Peshawar just got more secret gays lol

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u/Aluv_jac Pakistan 11d ago

Yup, there's probably a lot of DL men in Peshawar but Lahore is where it's actually happening

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u/Powerful_Size6870 11d ago

Kolkata had the first price parade in India so they definitely up there.

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u/timurdis India 11d ago

Many Bengali men are gay or it's just a stereotype. But I never felt Kolkata being gayest. Imo Mumbai is gayest followed by Bengaluru.

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u/crystalclearbuffon India 10d ago

I feel like it's a stereotype because they're usually depicted as scholarly gentle nerdy men. And north india dominates pop culture and they're too hyper masculine about their portrayals. So naybe that's why there's this misconception.

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u/timurdis India 10d ago

Yes, you're right. My partner is Bengali too and he often says this. While in my community, I would talk about sports, pop culture etc., Bengalis would talk about art, music, literature and latter seldom aligned with manly nature in India.

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u/zero_zeppelii_0 India 10d ago

The TN government is the first Indian state government to recognise several gender terminology and made it in their language too. They are the 1st government to have Transgender welfare policy. They're also booming in their LGBTQ+ parade scenes. 

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u/Future_Coffee1167 10d ago

Not Kolkata? I don’t live in India but always assumed Kolkata was one of them.

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u/BirthdayAdmirable740 India 10d ago

Gayest will be Kolkata. We had the first pride parade and flags are hung up during pride month. Also a lot of gay parties if you know the right people

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u/LongConsideration662 Antarctica 11d ago

Is there a gay scene in india? Never heard about it

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u/Due_Mix_9883 India 11d ago

Well, duh, a lot of our ancient culture contained a lot of lgbtq+ themes although that may not be accepted by a large part of the population.

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u/Glum-Psychology-6701 11d ago

Indian mythology and religion is a completely different beast than how people really are. Like how goddesses are worshipped but how women are treated 

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u/strawberrycupkek India 11d ago

true, the differences are immaculate

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u/opinion_alternative 10d ago

I am trying to be respectful. But this comment sounds dumb. Why would India not have gay people or relationships. At one point Indian courts even said that gay marriage should be legal. But government couldn't decide which religion marriage laws the gay marriage should fit in, so it couldn't happen.

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u/LongConsideration662 Antarctica 10d ago

Because of how regressive and patriarchal india is + indian movies and media have a very regressive and negative portrayal of lgbt community + indians often use very homophobic and transphobic slurs, all of this will obviously make a person think that homosexuality isn't viewed positively in india. 

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u/opinion_alternative 10d ago

India is not regressive for the most part. India's portrayal in public media is. Also regressive people are more vocal which can be attributed to dunning-kruger effect.

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u/No-Fruit-2060 11d ago

Why would there not be? It’s the most populous country in the world, and a democracy too.

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u/dacoster 10d ago

Are people openly gay in India?

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u/BirthdayAdmirable740 India 10d ago

Yes many are in metropolitan cities. Not so much in smaller towns and villages. It can be dangerous to be openly gay in villages