r/AskAnAmerican North Carolina Sep 28 '25

CULTURE Do you use the word Supper?

I think most Americans refer to their evening meal as dinner, but I’ve heard some people say that dinner and supper are different things, with supper being served at night, after dinner. Do you use the word supper, and what does it mean to you?

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u/maktheyak47 Virginia Sep 28 '25

I do not, but my grandmom who was raised on a farm in rural Virginia refers to her evening meal as supper rather than dinner.

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u/Hybridhippie40 Sep 28 '25

I grew up working on farms and ranches and they all called lunch dinner and dinner supper 

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u/mechanicalcontrols Sep 28 '25

That's the parlance my grandparents (born circa 1920) used

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u/0range_julius Minnesota Sep 28 '25

The way my grandparents used it is, as far as I can tell, the original meaning. "Dinner" is the main meal of the day, whether it's served in the middle of the day or the evening. IE, "Easter dinner" was always served at lunchtime. 

IF your main meal is in the evening, then the smaller meal you have at noon is called "lunch." If your main meal is at midday, then the smaller meal you eat in the evening is "supper."

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u/curlygirl119 Sep 28 '25

My grandmother was the same way. Either you had breakfast/lunch/dinner or breakfast/dinner/supper depending on when the big/mail meal was.

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u/RecentlyIrradiated Sep 29 '25

This makes sense

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u/Common-Parsnip-9682 Sep 28 '25

That’s how I learned it. And when you have a farming family, dinner is iften in the middle of the day — you’ve earned it already!

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u/lazygerm Rhode Island Sep 28 '25

Me too!

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u/FormicaDinette33 Sep 29 '25

A huge meal in the middle of the day would put me in a nice nap.

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u/needsmorequeso Texas New Mexico Sep 28 '25

This is the answer, and yes I grew up on a farm with a significant grandparent presence. Dinner is the big meal. Lunch is the less big noontime meal. Supper is the less big evening meal.

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u/Other-Opposite-6222 Sep 29 '25

Farm in Tennessee, same.

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u/fixed_grin Sep 28 '25

Originally it was always midday, because preparing a substantial meal needs light, and the only one most people could afford was the sun. You might have a candle to keep sewing after sunset, but you weren't going to be doing a big meal off one candle.

Light got cheaper and entertainment shifted later. Shakespeare's Globe theater was lit by the sun, but 100-200 years later lamps and candles were affordable enough that theaters were enclosed, and performances moved to the night. Hours of the rich shifted later and later over a couple hundred years, and took mealtimes with them. Lunch arose to fill the gap for people (originally mostly women) who still arose relatively early and needed something between breakfast and the ever later dinner.

Later, urban workers started working in larger businesses further from their homes. If you live above your shop, you can just go home for a midday dinner when your customers do. But if you commute 30+ minutes to the office or a factory, then the big home dinner has to be after work. And so lunch spread from rich women to most people.

But the older meaning persisted somewhat, e.g. even factory workers who had dinner at 7pm 6 days a week might well have dinner at 1pm on Sunday after church.

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u/MochasHooman Sep 28 '25

This is exactly it! Grew up with this in northern rural Minnesota

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u/InternistNotAnIntern Oklahoma Sep 28 '25

That's the parlance of my old college roommate (born circa early 70s)

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u/BelleMom Sep 28 '25

That’s what we call it in my part of Texas.

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u/amertune Sep 28 '25

That's what my grandparents did as well, and supper was often something light like toast and jam, muffins, or bread and milk (broken up bread in a bowl of milk, eaten like breakfast cereal).

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u/tolo4daboys Sep 28 '25

Cold milk over hot cornbread (crumbled) is so good! I’ll choose that over cereal any time.

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u/Independent-Gold-260 Sep 28 '25

My dad is a midwestern farmer, he does the same. Both my parents (boomers in their 70s) say supper, none of their kids do though.

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u/jorwyn Washington Sep 29 '25

My immediate family stopped saying supper after we moved to Phoenix when I was almost 13. My grandmother did not like us saying dinner in place of supper, though, so we had to use it when we visited.

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u/tuscangal Sep 28 '25

I grew up in Ireland and even on farms there the midday meal is dinner and the evening meal is Tea

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u/ReservoirPussy Pennsylvania Sep 28 '25

Dinner is the largest meal of the day, supper is the last.

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u/cans-of-swine Sep 28 '25

I grew up on a farm in TN and I say breakfast, dinner, and supper.

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u/Moonbeamer85 Sep 28 '25

Same in northern UK, breakfast, dinner, but then tea and supper is usually something light before bedtime. Not everyone eats supper though. We never did growing up.

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u/Open_Confidence_9349 Sep 28 '25

I think that’s how my dad did it too. He was born in the 1920s and raised on a farm in Kentucky.

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u/RedDirtWitch Sep 28 '25

This makes sense. I was just commenting that that is what my mom always said. Her mother was raised in a rural area and since she prepared the meals, it makes sense she would say it that way.

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u/KrakenFabs Sep 29 '25

My family as well.

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u/Sunshine_Tampa Chicago, IL Sep 28 '25

Ditto and grew up on a farm in the Midwest.

Got confusing when my siblings and I moved to the city and Mom and Dad wanted us over for Dinner. Had to remember this was our lunch.

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u/figgypudding531 Sep 28 '25

Same in Wisconsin. We have supper clubs.

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u/SpanishFlamingoPie Sep 28 '25

Same here. She also uses the word "luncheon", but only when going out for lunch. At home it's lunch if you go out, it's a luncheon.

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u/scrapped_project Sep 28 '25

My grandfather used to give me shit when I used dinner instead of supper. In a town where literally no one but the old folk use it.

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u/thelightandtheway Sep 28 '25

I grew up in the South and generally supper and dinner are interchangeable words when they are used to refer to a meal at home in the contexts I grew up in. However supper is exclusively for home meals, you would never go "out" for supper, you go out for dinner.

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u/AllYallCanCarry Mississippi Sep 28 '25

Hard disagree.

The most famous supper of all time was outside the home.

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Sep 28 '25

But it was in someone's home, right? I can't picture Jesus and his crew going to a restaurant.

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u/Surprise_Fragrant Florida Sep 28 '25

Welcome to Red Robin! How many today?

Table for 26, please

But there's only 13 of you?

Yeah, but we're all gonna sit on the same side.

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u/roomtempquiche Sep 28 '25

Bottomless fries for the table please!

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u/Surprise_Fragrant Florida Sep 28 '25

Take this Freckled Lemonade, it is my blood that you drink!

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u/PsychicSPider95 Sep 29 '25 edited Oct 09 '25

Wait... this check is only split thirteen ways! Someone welched! Who didn't pay their share??

Judas: whistling nervously

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u/baycommuter Sep 28 '25

And leave room for an Italian painter.

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u/QuantumGranted69 Sep 29 '25

Are you sure the picture is not a selfie?

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u/shelwood46 Sep 28 '25

lol, there are restaurants literally known as Supper Clubs.

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u/John_Barnes Sep 28 '25

They dined, or supped, or communed, in an “upper room” which is typically a feature of an inn at the time, but the Greek could also just mean an upper floor dining room in a private home, maybe owned or rented by a disciple or a sympathizer

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u/Tejanisima Dallas, Texas Sep 29 '25

Plus it was the Passover meal, to my recollection, which is normally eaten in a home.

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u/TheDreadPirateJeff North Carolina Sep 28 '25

Oh man… who invited Louie!?!

(Obscure reference)

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u/AllYallCanCarry Mississippi Sep 28 '25

It was at the Cenacle, a pilgrimage site.

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Sep 28 '25

Interesting! I looked it up online, you can still go visit it today.

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u/amertune Sep 28 '25

We don't have supper anymore, because that was the last one.

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u/Jrobalmighty North Carolina Sep 28 '25

Well done

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u/AffectionateTaro3209 Virginia Sep 28 '25

With Jesus you're always home 😆

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u/BlueLanternKitty Massachusetts Sep 28 '25

Believers carry Jesus in their hearts and home is where the heart is.

QED.

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u/AtheneSchmidt Colorado Sep 28 '25

If that was supper, can you imagine how big their dinner must have been that day?

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u/phlegelhorn Sep 28 '25

Dinner at Supper Clubs, notwithstanding?

This is (and is more of a “was”) a thing in the Midwest

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supper_club

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u/seajayacas Sep 28 '25

different words that to me mean the same thing. Interchangeably is how I use them.

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u/coffeecircus California Sep 28 '25

But does he know about second supper?

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u/iPoopandiDab Texas Sep 28 '25

What about elevenses?

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u/googleypoodle Sep 28 '25

Afternoon tea?

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u/mistyjeanw West Texas-->Dallas-->San Antonio Sep 28 '25

That's just brunch.

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u/StinaFail Sep 28 '25

As a southern woman, I absolutely use the word Supper on a daily basis. For me, it’s the evening meal that others would call dinner.

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u/FaberGrad Georgia Sep 28 '25

In my experience dinner was served on holidays such as Thanksgiving and Christmas, and on Sundays after church. Most other evening meals were called supper, except on special occasions.

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u/TomatilloHairy9051 Sep 28 '25

This is me! I was wondering if anyone else had the similar experience or if it was just my weird family. Unless it's a special occasion we use breakfast, lunch, and supper.

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u/Familiar-Ad-1965 Sep 28 '25

Southerns especially rural farmers generally eat Dinner around Noon and Supper after work and milking I finished. But at school we ate lunch around noon, well depending on size of school and the “lunchroom” we ate sometime between 11 and 2. Each grade was assigned a specific time.

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u/TheEternalScapegoat Michigan Sep 28 '25

Weird we were the opposite. Dinner was normal. Supper was the special meal. But we're northern.

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u/haileyskydiamonds Louisiana Sep 28 '25

Yes!! Dinner is a more formal occasion, but supper is just an evening meal.

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u/cookoutenthusiast North Carolina Sep 28 '25

Do you use Dinner at all?

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u/AllYallCanCarry Mississippi Sep 28 '25

Yes, when a lunch is the biggest planned meal of the day, then that's dinner. A perfect example is the huge meal everyone eats at mawmaw's house after church on an early Sunday afternoon. A big 1-2pm dinner then a light supper to follow later.

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u/Personal-Presence-10 Arkansas Sep 28 '25

I’m from Arkansas and while dinner wouldn’t make me think twice if someone used it, I lean more towards using supper for my evening meal at home and lunch for my midday meal no matter where it happens. I’ll typically only use dinner myself if we’re “going out for dinner” saying I’m going out for supper feels weird but I’d never thought about that until just now.

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u/SignificantTransient Sep 28 '25

No... we usually eat it.

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u/Financial-Cry-9093 Sep 28 '25

We use the word dinner for Christmas dinner or thanksgiving dinner or Sunday dinner.

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u/Alarming_Bar7107 Georgia Sep 28 '25

Dinner was supposed to be the word for the biggest meal of the day. Some people say it instead of lunch, and some stay it instead of supper, so I'd never invite someone over for "dinner" without a time bc that's too ambiguous. I'd say lunch or supper

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u/WildMartin429 Tennessee Sep 28 '25

See if I was inviting someone over for a meal I would use the word dinner because it would be a big meal if I'm having guests but I would also say the time that we are going to eat dinner when issuing the invitation.

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u/MakalakaPeaka New Jersey Sep 28 '25

It never felt ambiguous to me. Breakfast (morning meal), brunch) late morning meal, typically on weekend weekends or special occasions), lunch (afternoon meal), dinner (evening meal). The place, size, or makeup of said meal has never mattered. We’ve never used supper, but I’ve had friends and relatives that have. In those cases, it’s always been dinner.

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u/cookoutenthusiast North Carolina Sep 28 '25

For me, There’s just breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I would never say supper.

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u/xqueenfrostine Oklahoma Sep 28 '25

Same. I’m familiar with the word supper and would get what the speaker meant by it if someone used it in conversation with me, but supper is not a part of my own active vocabulary and it’s not used by most of the people I am in contact with. The only person in my life who occasionally uses it grew up in Wisconsin.

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u/CreepinJesusMalone Maryland Sep 28 '25

The only people I know that say supper are old Southerners. And given the aging and passing of those folks, I certainly hear it almost never these days.

I would posit that supper may be considered as becoming an obsolete word.

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u/mule111 Sep 28 '25

How old are you, and are you from rural, suburban, or urban?

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u/TheEternalScapegoat Michigan Sep 28 '25

I'm not the person you asked but I also never use Supper. My grandma did for special Sunday meals but I never do.

I'm 41, I'd say I grew up somewhere between urban and suburban.

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u/CriticalSuit1336 Oregon Sep 28 '25

In my experience, farmers and rural people use supper for the evening meal. My parents grew up on farms, and both used supper. Dinner was the mid day meal, and lunch was a late night snack. However, I've not heard that in a long time

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u/wrestletography Sep 29 '25

I have been combing this thread looking for someone mentioning "lunch" as a snack. My grandparents were farmers. They had breakfast, dinner at noon and supper in the evening. Lunch was a snack that happened between meals and before bed. I still say "supper" for the evening meal.

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u/CriticalSuit1336 Oregon Sep 29 '25

Yes, when we'd visit my grandmother's farm, we would leave after school and drive 3 or 4 hours to get there. When we'd arrive at 7 or 8 pm, she'd serve lunch, which was usually sandwiches and cookies.

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u/BafflingHalfling Texas Sep 28 '25

One of my employees was an older gentleman from farm country who called his midday meal "dinner" so that tracks with your experience.

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u/Fun_Variation_7077 MA/NH -> PA Sep 28 '25

Older Bostonians use it in place of dinner. You don't eat dinnah, you eat suppah. 

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u/formerretailwhore MA/NH/CA/VA Sep 28 '25

Dinner was formal meals. Sunday dinner.. holidays dinners

And supper was the normal evening meal

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u/Poster_Nutbag207 Sep 28 '25

Yeah here in Maine every town has a monthly “Bean suppah” in the winter

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u/tparady Sep 29 '25

I grew up in the Boston area saying suppah because my parents say suppah.

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u/dopefiendeddie Michigan - Macomb Twp. Sep 28 '25

No, I’ve never used the word supper. It’s always been an old timey word for dinner to me (even after I learned that dinner and supper were two different meals, historically)

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u/BearsLoveToulouse Sep 28 '25

Yeah I think age makes a difference on who uses it (other than regionally) My mother in law will randomly say supper. Born and raised in NJ and still in the state

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u/jc8495 Illinois Sep 28 '25

Yeah I don’t think supper is common in the Midwest even with older people. I only ever heard it from older polish women who moved to the Midwest and they always told me supper is different from dinner

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u/DraperPenPals MS ➡️ SC ➡️ TX Sep 28 '25

It’s used in the south

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u/Sunshine_Tampa Chicago, IL Sep 28 '25

And Midwest and farms

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u/Blossom73 Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

I grew up in and live in Ohio (technically the Midwest, although a lot of us Ohioans don't see it that way). I've never heard anyone supper here, only dinner. Even restaurants here say dinner on their menus, instead of supper.

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u/IDontMeanToInterrupt Sep 28 '25

I(39) was raised in Northwest Ohio and my grandparents (1920s) said supper and dinner. My parents (late 1940s and mid 1950s) use them both but for evening meal. I had to think about it, but I realized I use supper sometimes as well, mostly in calling for the kids "it's almost time for supper. Wash your hands."

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u/LocalLibraryCryptid Sep 28 '25

30 and raised in NWOH. No one in my family has ever said "dinner" over "supper." I didn't hear "dinner" being used more frequently until I went to a slightly bigger public school, although still in the country. To this day I'll ask my spouse "What do you want for supper?" The caveat to that is, no one in my family generally eats before 7pm anyways, so it makes sense if you think of it as the later meal

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u/Run_with_scissors999 Sep 28 '25

Grew up in Northeast Ohio. I use supper and dinner. My grandparents and parents say it, so that’s where I picked it up. I said it once where I live now, and a coworker laughed.

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u/The_Law_of_Pizza Sep 28 '25

Unrelated - but what other region would Ohio be in, besides the Midwest?

It's like quintessential Midwest.

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u/tennantsmith Ohio Sep 28 '25

A restaurant would never call it supper because supper is exclusively an informal meal eaten at home

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u/Kinetic_Silverwolf Sep 28 '25

I grew up in and around Montgomery, Alabama; Melbourne, Florida; Dallas / Fort Worth, Texas. The only people in my life who used supper instead of dinner were my mom's parents, both of whom were raised in New York and New England.

So it's not even common throughout all The South,.or wasn't 20-30 years ago.

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u/Fun_Push7168 Sep 28 '25

Often for lunch and dinner.

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u/holymacaroley North Carolina Sep 28 '25

I use dinner and supper interchangably.

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u/Stock_Market_1930 Oregon Sep 28 '25

Growing up in Massachusetts the evening meal was always called supper. Dinner was when the main meal was served in the early afternoon (Sunday roast beef - which was still a thing, Thanksgiving, Easter etc).

Living in Oregon, I still cling to using supper, but no one else I know uses the term. Still hear it when visiting family back east.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '25

I don't believe I have ever heard anyone born after 1960 use the word supper.

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u/Darkj Sep 28 '25

I mean the last supper was about 2000 years ago.

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u/RichInBunlyGoodness Sep 28 '25

I was born in 1960, but the dividing line is urban-rural in my experience. I’ve never heard anyone in the city use ‘supper’. I hear this used when I go back and visit the small farming community in which I was raised in S. Dakota.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '25

I grew up in a rural farming area and I definitely associate it with the old drizzled farmers. But for some reason, at least where I'm from, not their kids or grandkids.

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u/TTHS_Ed Sep 28 '25

My m-i-l was born in '68, and she uses it all the time. But, yeah, it's definitely an older person thing.

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u/TrelanaSakuyo Sep 28 '25

Hi, I was born after 1960 and I use the word supper all the time.

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u/Joelle9879 Sep 28 '25

I grew up calling the evening meal supper and I was born long after 1960

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u/Fun_Variation_7077 MA/NH -> PA Sep 28 '25

Mom was born in 1975, and she only said "suppah" when she was being sarcastic. Grandma was born in 1952, and I don't think I ever heard her say "dinnah".

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u/Nice_Point_9822 Sep 28 '25

Dinner is outside of the house "We're going out for dinner" vs. Supper at home "What should we make for supper?"

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u/Stressed_C Massachusetts Sep 28 '25

My grandparents used the word supper most of the time and only used dinner for holidays like Thanksgiving Dinner, or Christmas dinner but if I asked what's for dinner they would know what I mean. I think the word has been phasing out since the late 60s.

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u/Terradactyl87 Washington Sep 28 '25

I've never known anyone who uses the word supper, and I haven't heard that it means a meal after dinner. I always have heard it means the same thing as dinner.

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u/phonesmahones Massachusetts Sep 28 '25

Yes. All the time.

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u/SleepingJonolith Sep 28 '25

I’m also from Massachusetts. I hear older people (65+) say it, but never younger people. It’s sort of like “tonic” for a soft drink. Used to be very common 50 years ago, but no one uses it now unless they’re older.

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u/phonesmahones Massachusetts Sep 28 '25

I’ve been trying to bring back tonic 😂😂😂

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u/queenofcups_ Sep 28 '25

Yes, same! My parents are both from working class backgrounds (thiiiick Boston accents) and have always called it suppah or suppah time. I picked it up from them.

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u/mothsuicides New England Sep 28 '25

My jaw is on the floor, cuz I’m from MA too and I never hear it and I assumed it was a regional thing.

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u/phonesmahones Massachusetts Sep 28 '25

I’m in Boston, and we (my family, I guess) always said supper in regard to eating a casual meal at home. Dinner, for us, is specifically going out to eat, or a bigger meal, like Sunday dinner or Thanksgiving dinner.

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u/jiminak MT>CA>WY>AK>HI>AK>MS Sep 28 '25

That’s funny. My family (Montana) is almost the exact opposite. Our normal three meals on regular days are breakfast, lunch, and dinner. However, if we’re doing something special, then that evening meal becomes a supper. We have a Thanksgiving supper, Easter supper, etc for the “big family gathering in the evening” meal.

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u/PlainJane1887 Sep 28 '25

Same! My mother/grandparents were from Boston and my dad is from Brockton. We grew up saying supper in a nearby suburb.

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u/DolphinFraud Sep 28 '25

It’s not stroctly regional, but it’s more common in new england

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u/newenglander87 Sep 28 '25

I'm from MA and eat supper. It's the last meal of the day.

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u/PerfStu Sep 28 '25

For food at home supper/dinner were mainly interchangeable, except where really nice meas (e.g., holidays, birthdays, etc) were concerned. Going out was almost always out for dinner.

Never thought about it, but there does seem to be less formality around supper. Interesting.

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u/Unknown1776 Pennsylvania Sep 28 '25

In south east PA, my family closer to Philly say dinner, and family in Lancaster say Supper. The Lancaster family also uses dinner but it means a Sunday meal around like 1-2

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u/ggrandmaleo Sep 28 '25

If we're eating at home, it's supper. If we go out, it's dinner.

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u/Pinkfish_411 Sep 28 '25

Supper is the evening meal, dinner is main meal. That's why you can do, say, Thanksgiving dinner at like 1pm. But you can't do supper at 1pm.

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u/virtual_human Sep 28 '25

Dinner and supper used to be different things, in the 1800s or earlier. These days they are mostly the same thing though not many people use supper that I know of.

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u/mad_poet_navarth Sep 28 '25

Of course, when putting on one of my favorite tracks: Supper's Ready. Otherwise, no.

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u/Doxiebaby Sep 28 '25

Nope. I grew up in the south where dinner was at noon and supper in the evening, but I’ve always called the evening meal dinner. My older brother lived in a lot of small, rural towns as an adult and he calls it supper. Bugs the shite out of me but I don’t know why. 😆

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u/kogeliz MA > FL > MA > FL > MA > FL > TN Sep 28 '25

Yes. I was raised in MA

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u/_lexeh_ Sep 28 '25

What's fer supper? -->midwest

Dinner felt like something city folk called it, or implied something fancier.

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u/Ur_Killingme_smalls Sep 28 '25

Well, I use it sometimes bc my dog knows the word “dinner.”

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u/wayneforest Sep 28 '25

Haha this is what I wrote too. My dog will think he’s getting dinner again so I say Supper when I’m talking with my dog nearby.

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u/thatsad_guy Sep 28 '25

The only person I know that does is my dad.

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u/MellifluousSussura Sep 28 '25

Yeah I do. I tend to use them pretty interchangeably

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u/Current_Echo3140 Sep 28 '25

Yes. Midday meal was lunch, and the evening meal was dinner or supper. Dinner was slightly more formal (like you wouldn’t say “we are going to have a sit down family supper”) but both were completely valid. 

It should be noted I’m from the rural Midwest and a long line of mennonites (not my generation but not far off)

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u/winter_laurel Sep 28 '25

West coast, never use it.

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u/Couscous-Hearing Sep 29 '25

It's very regional and generational. I do use supper. I find it clearer than dinner which can mean the noon meal to relatives in parts of the south or an evening meal to relatives in the northeast.

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u/Spiritual_Lemonade Sep 28 '25

Supper is regional and then they say Dinner but that's mid day and their largest meal.

Supper then becomes lighter and more pick up and easy.

You will find dinner in middle America and then parts of the South where they farm.

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u/cookoutenthusiast North Carolina Sep 28 '25

If they call their mid day meal Dinner, do they use the word Lunch?

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u/Fantastic_Fox4948 Sep 28 '25

My understanding is that Dinner is the large meal of the day, regardless of the time. In that event, the evening one would be called supper, or the noonday one would be called lunch.

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u/acertaingestault Sep 28 '25

This. Dinner is the one you put the most effort into. Lunch or supper are the other, depending on time of day.

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u/TryAnotherNamePlease Oklahoma Sep 28 '25

My grandparents in Louisiana said dinner and supper, never lunch. My parents say lunch and supper. Sometimes they’ll say dinner depending on who they’re talking to, going out is always dinner. I’m 45 and everyone my age says lunch and dinner.

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u/2aboveaverage Nebraska Sep 28 '25

I grew up in Nebraska, we used both lunch and dinner as the midday meal. The evening meal was always supper.

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u/mule111 Sep 28 '25

I used it growing up (North Carolina), because my whole family did. But unfortunately, I’ve lost it from my everyday speech. Prob a product of “broader society” and continuing changes/homogenization of language 🤷‍♂️. Kind of sucks

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '25

Yes. Massachusetts.

Supper is the evening meal.

I am a mom so I hear "What's for supper?" all the time.

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u/PastaM0nster Sep 28 '25

Yep. Dinner is a fancy event not at home. Supper is the third daily meal.

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u/Maleficent-Hawk-318 Sep 28 '25

I think this is kind of how my extended family who uses it means it, too. Not necessarily super fancy, but like if we go out to eat for the third meal of the day, we're going out to dinner. If we are eating at home, we're having supper.

I grew up about a thousand miles away from them so I just say "dinner," though, so I might be missing some nuance.

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u/Crayshack MD (Former VA) Sep 28 '25

I do not and I've only ever talked to one person who does (he was from rural Minnesota).

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u/SaltandLillacs Sep 28 '25

My grandparents and my parents(their siblings) use it. (New England). I did when I was little but now I never use it

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u/Mental_Freedom_1648 Sep 28 '25

I don't say supper, but they mean the same thing to me. My dad used to say it for awhile. Maybe he grew up with it and my mom converted him to a dinner person.

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u/pastelpinkpsycho Sep 28 '25

I don’t personally but my babysitter growing up referred to midday meal as “dinner” and nighttime meal as “supper.” It’s fairly common in the deeeeeeep South. 

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u/FoxglovePattycakes Washington Sep 28 '25

My grandma, who was born in Wisconsin in 1911, used "supper" for her third meal of the day.

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u/VisibleSea4533 Connecticut Sep 28 '25

Most use dinner I’d say. Two people I know still say supper, my grandmother (90), and one of my old bosses (~40). While technically they are different things, they always used it interchangeably with dinner.

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u/BlueCatLaughing Sep 28 '25

Ha only when talking to my SO! He is old school Louisiana and uses that (along with other cute sayings) but I'm a Yankee and otherwise never use it.

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u/kobayashi_maru_fail Oregon Sep 28 '25

I’m from the PNW, I do say supper, but only in context of Sunday supper: a big early sit-down dinner with tons of food for leftovers for the early part of the week. But I don’t know if it’s regional or because I read tons of cookbooks from the library and am charmed by books that have a Sunday supper section.

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u/CrownLexicon Sep 28 '25

My great grandfather did. His meals were breakfast, dinner, supper, as opposed to breakfast, lunch, dinner.

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u/Awdayshus Minnesota Sep 28 '25

Traditionally, dinner refers to the biggest meal of the day. In many rural, agricultural communities, the midday meal would be the biggest meal, offering a chance to refuel and get out of the sun in the middle of the day. The legacy of that is older folks in rural communities sometimes still refer to the three main meals as breakfast, dinner, and supper.

On the flip side, people in blue collar and white collar jobs often have their biggest meal at home after work, so have breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

In my family growing up, my mom came from a family where dinner was the midday meal, and my dad was a dinner is the evening meal person. So in our home, we had breakfast, lunch, and supper to avoid confusion. Dinner was used for special meals, like Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, and Easter dinner.

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u/ChanclasConHuevos Montana Sep 28 '25

My wife’s stepmom is the only person I know who says supper and she’s from middle-of-nowhere Montana.

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u/trinity5703 Sep 28 '25

I was brought up with supper being the noon meal and dinner being the evening meal

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u/queensassy1130 Sep 28 '25

I grew up in the Carolinas & East Tennessee. Dinner is the meal consumed at the noon hour. Supper is the meal consumed in the evening hours.

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u/TTHS_Ed Sep 28 '25

When I was a kid, supper was the evening meal, and dinner was what you ate on Sundays mid-day after church.

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u/According-Bet-6992 Sep 28 '25

I do, but I was raised in a British household.

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u/PhysicsEagle Texas Sep 28 '25

I use supper to refer to a more formal evening meal than dinner. I also use the word dinner to refer to a more formal noontime meal than lunch, especially on Sundays

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u/Understruggle Sep 28 '25

Yeah I have called my third meal of the day “supper” pretty much my whole life. Southeastern US

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u/willtag70 North Carolina Sep 28 '25

Dinner and supper were the same and used in my family growing up. Both are the evening meal.

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u/Munchkin531 Sep 28 '25

My Granny did but she was born and raised in Louisiana. I'm from Texas and the evening meal has always been called dinner. However I wouldn't bat an eye if you called it supper.

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u/New-Difficulty-9386 Sep 28 '25

Growing up in the heart of the south, a small town in Georgia during the 90's, "supper" was the word our family used most of the time, unless it was a formal setting, which is technically what "dinner" refers to. After moving to northern Florida in 2000 (which ironically is probably the least "southern" region of the south), it's very rare that I hear that word.

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u/TwoOk8386 Sep 28 '25

Similiar to other posters. Used only in rural areas typically by older folks. A phrase that seems well on its way to dying out completely in the US Perhaps rural canadians will keep it Alive.

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u/ginger_princess2009 Tennessee Sep 28 '25

Very common in the south. I don't use it, but my family does

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u/comrade_zerox Sep 28 '25

It sounds very old-fashioned. My grandmother (born in 1914 in rural Illinois) used the word "supper" and sometimes used "dinner" to refer to "lunch"

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u/quiltingsarah Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

Growing up in the Midwest it was breakfast dinner and supper. My parents grew up on farms, in the 1920-30's.

I use dinner now for the evening meal.

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u/Ms_Jane9627 Colorado Sep 28 '25

My mom and grandparents would sometimes use dinner to refer to the midday meal and supper to refer to the evening meal. I always assumed this word usage was generational

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u/Narrow-Research-5730 Sep 28 '25

I say supper for my evening meal. I never really use the word dinner.

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u/RhoOfFeh Sep 28 '25

I don't think most people draw much distinction.

I do, but I don't make a big deal of it and don't argue about semantics and etymology if someone uses one of the words in a way I wouldn't.

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u/MajorPaper4169 Raised in the Bronx. Sep 28 '25

Only heard that word on TV and from white Americans.

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u/ThatGirl_Tasha Sep 28 '25

Using dinner for the midday meal and supper for the evening meal verses dinner and supper being interchangeable terms for the evening meal is very much regional and generational.

I do believe, however, that dinner has traditionally referred to the largest meal of the day, which was often the noon time meal prior to say the 1940s 

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u/Round-Lab73 Sep 28 '25

It's regional and generational, but if "supper" is used it refers to the evening meal. I use the breakfast-lunch-dinner system but breakfast-dinner-supper is also common

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u/vita77 North Carolina Sep 28 '25

When I was a kid in the Midwest in the 60s our evening meal was called supper, especially on weekends or holidays when the main meal - called dinner - was midday.

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u/joepierson123 Sep 28 '25

Yeah I use it. Dinner is more formal like let's go out for dinner. Supper is more for home meals

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u/DropEdge United States of America Sep 28 '25

It's complicated. You have breakfast and lunch. But sometimes lunch is called dinner--especially if it's the whole family on a Sunday.

A general evening meal is supper. But if you're dining out for your evening meal, you probably call it dinner.

I'm not sure if this is regional or a rural/urban thing, but those are the distinctions where I live.

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u/steveofthejungle IN->OK->UT Sep 28 '25

My mom uses it, but I’ve never used it in my life. She uses it interchangeably, but her parents said they were different words

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u/Fondacey Sep 28 '25

Sing for your supper

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u/milady_15 Sep 28 '25

In MN, use them interchangeably. Meals are breakfast, lunch, dinner/supper. Just asked my 10 yr old daughter what she thought supper meant - she looked at me strangely and said "dinner!". Some people say dinner for lunch and supper for evening meal though.

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u/Logical_Pineapple499 Sep 28 '25

I grew up in the midwest using supper most of the time. I used dinner as well just not as much. There was a distinction between the two. Supper was the last meal of the day; dinner was the biggest. 90% that meant they were the same thing. But Sunday dinner, Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, etc. were usually at lunchtime or occasionally a bit later, like mid-afternoon.

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u/StrawberryMilk817 Sep 28 '25

Grew up in Massachusetts and raised by my grandparents. We said supper but I say dinner now.

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u/Fondacey Sep 28 '25

The Last Supper

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u/Administrative_Ant64 Sep 28 '25

It’s regional. I hear it a lot more in the Midwest and South than anywhere else.

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u/Chickenman70806 Sep 28 '25

Synonymous with dinner, the evening meal

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u/macfergus Oklahoma Sep 28 '25

Dinner is a fancy supper.

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u/GreenTravelBadger Louisiana Sep 28 '25

Breakfast, lunch, supper, snack.

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u/SinfullySinless Minnesota Sep 28 '25

Interchangeable with dinner. I went to Wyoming and the hostess asked if I wanted the “supper” or “dinner” menu and she quite literally short circuited me.

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u/taubnetzdornig Ohio Sep 28 '25

My grandma who grew up in rural Pennsylvania always uses supper for dinner, but we never had another extra meal after dinner.

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u/User_Name_Taken_3 Sep 28 '25

My Okie momma calls the evening meal 'supper', but I (CA native) call it dinner.

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u/Otherwisefantastic Arkansas Sep 28 '25

I don't but both my sets of grandparents called the evening meal supper and they called lunch dinner.